There is always something to be said for those who spend their holidays alone or in uncomfortable places. I’ll make this one a little easier and explain just how difficult it can be for some of us during those specials days. Let’s just keep it simple and break down 4 different circumstances:
#1 – The One Who Moved Away
I’m sure we’ve all had a friend or family member relocate to another state or even another country. Likely the move occurred right before or immediately after a holiday and usually, that’ll be a day to remember. The food, the drinks, the social environment. So by the time that same holiday rolls around, it’ll be drastically different because the vibe is not the same. In this case, making new friends is easy for some, but not so easily accomplished by others. Those who smoothly make new friends tend to have events to keep them busy. Unfortunately for the opposite person, their options are scarce. Ultimately creating a hermit out of a person.
#2 – The One Recently Made Single
Post separations can be tiresome depending on the reasons. Let’s just say it all ended horribly. One or both recovering from the relationship can suffer from temporary depression. Being in that position in the past myself, it is something dark to endure. The constant recaps and memories can cause a person to shut down. Therefore pizza and a few movies at home are far more appealing than a bar-b-q with friends. That is absolutely fine. Again, post separation can be draining. We all need time alone to mentally rebuild after giving half, if not all of who we are away.
#3 – The One Who Lost A Loved One
This one is a little deeper. Losing someone close can be devastating of course. The grief gets REAL. It’s kind of like having a friend move away but add the reality of knowing you wouldn’t get the option to video chat. That kind of distress lingers for years. I’ve personally known folks to use alcohol heavily on holidays just to feel free from that reality. Though that only results in a nasty hangover. No solution there. This person is known to ride the holiday silently. They’ll go completely ghost on social media or avoid mentioning the day of celebration altogether. Sometimes people pass away on or near special dates. That too creates a negative reaction annually. Unfortunately, there is no way to change or guess dates of a death. Imagine if we could……
#4 – The One With Depression and Anxiety
Many people with depression symptoms experience a worsening of mood over the holidays. Experts say one of the biggest causes of holiday depression symptoms is unrealistic expectations. A person battling depression may be holding on to what they remember as an ideal holiday from years gone by. Inevitably, you won’t be able to reproduce it.
CJ Jones <3