I’d like to dive into something a little more lax this week and cover a rediscovered topic. Back in 2014 I called myself taking a spiritually journey while reading the book, “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne. The book pretty much takes you on a ride towards discovering how your thoughts create or alter your reality. The book has sold 20 million copies worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages. So you know people were reading it just as I was. During that time I was having a hard time with AUD. For those who aren’t aware, AUD is pretty much alcoholism. I literally had a physical and emotional dependence with alcohol after some traumatic experiences.
You can imagine feeling like there’s nothing left to prove or lose. So I searched for some kind of relief. That’s when I discovered the law of attraction. I started to improve major things about my life. My career choices shifted because opportunities appeared. My friendships grew stronger. I even had a little luck with a relationship that year, but that didn’t work because of my partner’s decision to cheat. Though I did achieve a certain level of clarity regarding how relationships last. My communications skills improved. People began to see me as a transparent (having nothing to hide) individual and I didn’t have to try so hard to keep good people around because they gravitated to me. People with cruel intentions were usually exposed before they’d get close enough to do damage. Then ultimately I learned how to heal before allowing a new relationship to bloom.
For the non-believers, yes, those things happened over the course of a year. Indeed.
I’ll admit that the knowledge from the book is only effective if you put some action to it. Though I can’t discredit the book because it gave me understanding as I progressed. Think about it. In church they say, “For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without work is dead also”, right? Well, the teachings from that book are the same. I initially picked the book for understanding, not entertainment. To sum it up, the teachings were this: See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it. It works every time, with every person.
Now that I’ve given that “secret” away, I’d like to offer up another. Recently I researched something called ikigai (pronounce ee-kee-guy). Ikigai is the reason for which you get up in the morning. In a nutshell, it’s the idea that happiness in life is about more than money or a fancy job title. The easiest way to understand ikigai would be to ask yourself 4 questions:
- What do you love?
- What do you care about?
- What does the world need?
- What can you get paid for?
This isn’t a “follow your passions” kind of method. This is a bit more detailed. You have to consider your passion, vocation, mission and profession. This is something you can take a week or two to generate. Why do you get out of bed in the morning? What would you like to see change in the world? Once you have the answers to those questions you can start mapping it all out.
- Write down everything you’re good at.
- Decide on your top 5 (or less).
- Notice which can earn you income.
- Notice which makes you happier.
- Does it fit with your life-, work-, and world-view?
- Can you see yourself wanting to do this even when you’re at an age of retirement?
After you’re done mapping, start testing. You are likely to find your ikigai while living it. You will have to shift some priorities along the way, but that’s really the point. You wouldn’t really mind the changes if you deeply wanted to find your purpose. You may find yourself saying “no” to some things you’d usually say “yes” to. Some days will not be as exciting and that’s absolutely okay. You may have some late nights and early mornings – some sleepless nights and a little frustration, too. Though when you find your ikigai, you’ll know it was all worth it.