I am generally a pretty laid back person, very rarely voice my opinion on social media and usually discuss things I feel strongly about with my wife. Well today that did not work out for me. I noticed a post and photo that included a group of obviously gay males and trans women of color. The topic of discussion was mainly focused on the fact that those individuals where part of a ‘LGBTQ’ friendly church. A few hours passed and I noticed the same picture on another persons status. (Let me mention that all people involved in both discussions were part of our community)
Disclaimer : I am not writing this to point fingers at anyone in particular but to create discussion and awareness.
I have recently interviewed a pastor, discussed religious perception with a panel as well as discussed the topic with other people. This topic is definitely trending for me. My wife and I recently joined a church that is ‘friendly’. Churches that fall into this category do not normally want to be identified as a GAY church because the concept lies more around acceptance of all people regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, nationality etc.
Now before you jump down my throat and possibly throw the bible my way let me make it clear that this post is not about if you agree or disagree on how people worship. Each individually (in my opinion) should choose to do so in a way that makes them feel closer to God or the higher being they worship. This post is more about the lack of unity display when we as members of the LGBTQ community talk and demand equality. Equality to marry, to adopt, to be listed as parents on birth certificates, file taxes, at our place of employment…whatever the case may be. Ironically the opportunity to equally worships seems not as exciting to many in our own community.
Worship service at MY church is no different than any other church I’ve attended. People there just choose to dress the way they would on a day to day basis (especially if they are non gender conforming or trans). Double standards have become the norm. ‘Other sinners’ do not outwardly carry their sins. Oh, unless they bare a child out of wedlock (and that’s acceptable now in church…40 years ago that would have been shameful) 5 kids 5 baby daddies, never married but all the children are lined up on the church pews. Is this woman’s sin the sermon on any given Sunday? Probably not anymore. Times have changes drastically. Does it make it acceptable from a biblical standpoint. NO. I’ve heard of several preachers and their infidelity. Some have gone as far as asking their congregation for forgiveness. The topic does not come back up for discussion. Another double standards is that seeing a studs come to church in pants and a bow tie is now considered more acceptable and even cute (but a trans woman does the same its an abomination)
Can we pick and choose equality? Give me a little of this and a little of that. It may not include the L but the G, maybe not the T but the B, and lets just forget about the QAPI+ letters of our LGBTQIAP+ community. In my opinion, you cant choose who is equal and who’s not. (that makes it redundant) We want acceptance but won’t accept each other. I am so saddened by this but furious at the same time.
In summary, I understand our society is programmed not to accept specific liberal freedoms in church, especially in the south the conservatives are apparent in religion even in the LGBT+ community. My issue is with judging those people who worship how they choose to. All I ask of those that are reading this and disagree…..
1.If they invite you to a service you don’t agree with decline…
2. If people that worship in this form annoy you and the concept of looking at them in that sense bothers you, block them
3. PLEASE refrain from sharing and talking about people choosing to worship in their own way. (IF a photo goes viral it would fall in the category of cyber bullying) From my standpoint, this is similar to non allies having a panel discussion on limiting our equality.
We as a society have to learn the difference between sharing your opinion on social media vs judgement.
Comments are welcome.